Yes, she is, and that's why a LBH can't trust a wayward W when out of the blue (and being hit with first wave of reality) she suddenly has feelings. Even if she goes to him crying and saying she wants to work things out, he better be careful and not give her a "yes" immediately. If she has not truly had a change of heart and just thinking about her financial problems, then time always tell off on her. She won't walk the straight & narrow very long.

That is why I try to explain that WW's have to work to get the H back. Sounds a little contradiction to the theory of keeping the road home paved smooth, but if she is wayward, she will put you through all that pain again if she is able to get you that easily (saying she has feelings, etc.). The difference in the WW is she has to get herself straighten out before anything else works. Sometimes they do, and sometimes they don't.

I am really sorry things didn't work out, Mac. You sound like a terrific guy, and whoever may be your next lady, I hope realizes how lucky she is.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!