Merrick I think you know my answer without even asking. I also am a good catholic and I know our religion would not consent to this I think you have to take into light what you are trying to do. I see nothing wrong with going on the date and seeing the woman as a freind. There is nothing better than some good female companionship to boost your pma and give your self esteem a charge. You have been through hell and to deprive yourself of this would be a sin in my book. Only we know how hard we have bent and twisted to save our R and M and to not be able to go for a coffee now would not be taking care of you. While I know the other side of the coin is that you dont want to find a reason to walk away just keep in mind that you are vulnerable right now and the ladies will see this and dial in on you. fresh meat on thwe market. You'll get used to women now days compaed to when you were dating your spouse. I find it alot more fun. They see you for what you are alot more now, they all want a good steady man with a paycheck and someone reasponsible. They are much more outspoken about what they want and they go get it, instead of waiting for it to come to them. Go for the gold buddy, you deserve a break and some female friendship. I know it feels awkward but it is all part of taking cre of you. God Bless, Eddy