WOW! You 2 certainly have it together, even when you're not together. I wish I could say the same. I'm left holding the bag with Ryan, can't even communicate with him about R's best interest without him still spewing poison at me. I try to stay out of the line of fire and am still unsure how to handle the "after me" stuff. I do have a will and a plan but he could effectively screw that up.
What a difficult time for your family. Knowing the inevitable. Just waiting. It is SO hard.