I know I've seen posts on this issue before, but wanted to get the views of some of my regulars.
When the D bomb dropped last October, I began looking at Internet dating services just to see what was out there. I even wrote up a profile to test my marketability, but kept it non-searchable. My profile says I'm Separated (emotionally anyway) and that I don't want any serious R's., just comraderie with those in similar straits.
In my recent state of detachment, I sent a few notes to those who caught my eye and one lady who liked my profile responded and led off by asking if I was Catholic (I put this as my religion), why was I ending my M. I replied honestly and warned her that this was her chance to run, but that saving my M is my number one, two, and three choice, but I still needed a sense of the what the world was like beyond M.
After trading a few short e-mails, she suggested actually meeting for coffee.
Should I go through with this? I believe I'm strong enough in my faith and values to enjoy new female company while resistsing temptation, but am I underestimating my vulnerability? Would this enhance or undermine my DB efforts? There's a part of me that says this is necessary to renew my confidence in order to continue effectively DBing, but another part of me says it's flat our wrong. But is this any different than going to a bar with friends and striking up a convo with a girl you find interesting? Maybe I should wait until I speak to Laurie.
Whether you want to push me forward or hit me with a frying pan, I'd welcome your thoughts.
