Not sure why I'm updating my thread, but anyways...
W continued to play mind games earlier this week after a tense text exchange, saying that she had been missing me and had wanted to talk, but nevermind. I simply asked 'talk about what?' and left it at that. She never responded.
I was talking to a mutual guy friend last night. He and his W going through a similar situation. I think I've mentioned before that his W is good friends with my W and had called me a few weeks back to talk about her sitch. Anyways, he told me last night that W had actually 'hooked up' with some guy at a vet convention they were all at LAST February. A month later was first BD. Said his W had told him that I knew all about it, so he never mentioned anything to me. Also told me that W had 'hooked up' with OM LAST summer (a month before 2nd BD) on a house boat bachelorette party. Was supposed to just be all girls, but OM and another single guy somehow went.
To make a long story short, W and I text last night. I was mainly concerned on whether I needed an STD test. She confirmed that she was drunk and 'kissed' them on impulse, but did not hook up. Who knows? I now question 15 yrs worth of marriage and flirty behavior by my W. Said she had made a mistake and it was her mistake to 'fix'. She didn't want to tell me because she knew it would hurt me. Duh. She continues to play the victim in all of this- how much guilt she's put herself through she still struggles with emotions that I have no clue about, that I've been looking for something all along so that none of the issues from our M fall on me, etc.
Still planning on proceeding towards a dissolution. Have sent W my proposed financial plan and planning on calling atty to set up an appt to at least give us a deadline to agree on things. As far as future interaction with W, I have no desire to maintain a friendship with her after all the hurt that she's put me though and the more 'info' I continue to find discover. Time to move on to a real relationship.
