Dawgy, stop the mind reading. Even if W is indeed seeing OM I doubt the conversation would be about you. But regardless, you have no control over what she does and you shouldn't try to control her. You only have control of yourself and even that is at times difficult.
I can see you're thinking about her all the time. That's not good either. Get your focus off her and onto you and your life without her. First of all it will improve your PMA and as a secondary effect your positive PMA may be noticed by her - but don't get a PMA for the purpose of drawing her in. Do it for yourself. I know this is hard to do when in such turmoil, but the more you focus on your own life the better.
Withdraw from her. But still be kind and gentle when she interacts with you. It's a tightrope and hard to do. But withdrawing will help both you and your sitch.
Last edited by PeterV2; 11/12/1403:16 PM.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
