Quote: i know your way of dealing with things is to not deal with them at all. obviously that coping method has worked for you but it certainly hasn't worked for us and it certainly doesn't work for me.
does she really believe this? she doesn't recognize that you have been making efforts to deal wtih all of this?
how do you feel she would react if you made some observations and confronted her with them in a gentle and kind way?
Quote: i do appreciate and understand that you care for me and that you never thought we would be in the place we are in. i never did either which i don't know how much you really understand that. however, knowing intellectually that you care for me when we don't relate to each other or manifest it makes it meaningless and irrelevant when we not living it in a way that brings any sense of happiness or fulfillment between us.
sounds like a lot of blame on you for all of this and no ownership on her part? holding onto all the reasons for the pain and resentment, thinking being rid of you will rid the pain when it will only carry it forever and also lose you. how do you break the stalemate?
