Let's try this again

[woundedfool]

I'm ready for a getaway again.

....Both of my work commuter cars have broken down and

....we are still in the middle of a bathroom and kitchen remodel.

....All while dealing with an active lawsuit.

....I'm now done with my second job so we should have more time.

....We are taking the boys to the mountains for
Thanksgiving.

.... He also booked a cabin for our annual Christmas-New Years vacation in the mountains up north.

So, I need to dance around this pretty lightly. Because I don't want to scare you off, or offend you. But I do want you to take a hard look at this. Plus I really don't want to be a party pooper. But:

Previously, you mentioned finances had been an issue with your R. But the things I list from your quote (while not exactly champagne and caviar type extravagant) are pretty big financial considerations.

Do you and H ever do any budgeting? or have communication about finances, or what your financial position is?

By no means am I suggesting you move to cut all expenses and move to Ramen Noodles as your nutrition source.... But man you both have a lot going on right now, plus you will see a net decrease in income as the 2nd job is now gone.

I am not looking for you to justify anything, but internally, actually put pen to paper and see what is coming in, and what is going out (be honest). If you are anything close to a negative, you should really consider some financial counseling as well.