Can you say to her, I wasn't in any pictures in the book last year so this year I'm including some with me?
I know this hurts. I went through my own ups and downs over losing my in-law family, a family I'd been a part of for 3 decades. In my case, they weren't the ogres I made them out to be in my mind, they were just uncomfortable. So I let go of them, too. It wasn't easy but it gave me peace of mind.
Healing happens as it happens. You'll get there.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss