It must have been quite a surprise to discover after all those years that your job upsets your wife. Don't know if you can believe a thing she says now, but if you do, at least you're gathering intelligence. Beats not knowing.
RobX' approach is impressive. Are you considering giving it a shot?
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
It was quite a surprise as she used to work with me doing the same stuff (pre-kids). It seems to be her anxiety over protecting them and in hindsight she has said similar things before. I just didn't register how much it concerned her.
I like the Robx attitude but at the moment my W is 100% wanting D (in both words and actions) so saying anything wouldn't have much affect. There is a trust issue to overcome first and she would need to face her own feelings of guilt. I haven't yet thought of a way to make this easier.
Vanilla, thank you. its good to have both advice and a cheer team. Im (semi) confident that I can turn me around even if it doesn't save my M.
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Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
