Thanks for the wise note UpperCu - indeed I have too often taken the role of the rational/parent in the relationship so will try and just be her H.
W really resents that I discussed things with her Mum then shut up when I pointed out that she had shared with a girlfriend of hers/married friends of ours before I knew anything.
Me 51 W46 S 20,18,14 T21 M20 DDAY 1 Sept 2014 Current: W ending A?