afraid I have waited too long #4

[nit84]

Wonka,

Thank you very much for hearing my call. Yes I stopped drinking the day after my W asked me to move out back in June of 2013. Not because I thought I had a problem but because my W thought it was a problem so out of respect for her and attempting to R I stopped completely. Honestly I don't miss it. Nothing but Church wine in 17 months.

I realize that talking to my W about Property and Assets are pointless but When she brought it up I thought I did a good job discussing it. She accused me of roadblocking in the days after the D complaint was handed to me by her. So I thought I would offer my thoughts in a calm manner but when I did it like that it still upset my W so as soon as that happened I thanked her for the talk and removed myself.

My W moved out the last Saturday in Sept taking a boatload of stuff that wasn't discussed and our cat without me even having a chance to say goodbye.

The OMW came to my home just this past weekend, for the fist and maybe only time, we talked for awhile. I didn't give up much info just telling her I suspected something and this just comfirms it. I asked if she was"done" with OM and she said she loved him and they have a family so no she is hurt and wants the lying and the A to stop. I didn't speak bad of OM or my W to her. She said she felt better after meeting me and letting me know. I will let her be the wedge that hopefully ends the A.

She told me she didn't care if I told my W she came over because she has confronted my W on 3 occasions and she admits to the A to her but she frustrated because OM is still denying it.

The OMW and OM are still initimate and according to OMW(total mind read by her)when OM and OMW talk my W stops her workout and is watching from afar in a jealous way.

I started doing the same thing as Starsky as soon as I moved back to the M home last Dec.

My big issue is I didn't and still don't know how to set a proper boundary.


I have made terrible DB mistakes and hope it is not too late.

I was a doormat.

Since my W has moved out She has Emailed twice and I responded both time but after 12 hrs or so not on purpose but because I didn't read my Emails till then.


I don't know what OMW plans are in regards to any more contact with me or my W or how she is handling her own M. The OM is at her home everyday but is staying at a friends(not my W) for the nights. My W is living with her GrandMother.

I do have feeling that one of two things may happen.

1. My W will be very upset about OMW contacting me and wondering what I said to her. She will turn it around and make it my fault.

2. My W will come back crying(crocodile tears) and try to play on my Love for her.


Of course neither of the above will happen unless OMW does something to initiate it. I don't believe I should say anything about OMW but keep this to myself till, if ever, the time is right.

Thanks Again