Would it be unreasonable to request XW not ask me to back her up with kid stuff when her activity is with OM? And basically tell her she's on her honor, as I'll never ask her whereabouts.
Or, you know, always take time with the kids and simply grin and bear it.
I'm of a mind that either course of action is acceptable. I'm kinda polling the crowd for opinions.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
I got some input today from a real life friend that is hard to swallow but probably right.
She said, it totally works in my favor if he dates and finds out its not all he thinks it's cracked up to be. Because as long as I'm not making things worse, then my grass is greener than anybody else's. In the long run.
(Open question if I'm managing to not make things worse, but considering the train wrecks that have been taking place in my small community, I'm freaking amazing!)
So I'd say, If you put that out there to your already divorced wife, the main thing you'll lose is time wih your kids. My two cents.
Sending you hugs, Shakes, I really feel for you.
BTW, I saw a small live production a few years ago of a Shakespearean rendition of The Big Lebowski. So in your honor, I'll quote:
The Knave Abideth.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
She said, it totally works in my favor if he dates and finds out its not all he thinks it's cracked up to be. Because as long as I'm not making things worse, then my grass is greener than anybody else's. In the long run.
I certainly hope so because it's my plan.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
Wow, Shake. That was hard to get my head around for a second.
Prayers from me too, buddy.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
