First of all - child support is not your problem. You have an obligation to care for your kids and if they were living with you you would incur the same or greater expenses. So stop thinking that child support is the issue.
Marital debt is an issue (how did ya'll end up with that debt, btw?). Keeping a house you might not be able to afford may be an issue. Buying a car you can't afford may have been an issue. But child support is not an issue.
As for finances: - can you get a room mate to help with expenses? - is this house really a good investment, or is it a money pit? It's easy to get emotional about a house, but don't forget to evaluate it objectively as you would any other investment too. - can you reduce your utility bills by watching your energy consumption? - where else do you think you can cut your expenses? I HIGHLY recommend you take a look at the MrMoneyMustache website and forums to get fired up about how you can save money. Also take a look at Dave Ramsey's baby steps - I don't care for the guy's politics, but he's spot on when it comes to budgeting and paying off debt. Very motivating.
Re: work - - I'm sorry you are having to deal with a job loss when you are already feeling so unsteady. Luckily you do have plenty of advance warning. Start thinking about whether you should be brushing up on any of your skills or certifications. Network with friends and acquaintances. Think outside the box.
Re: Mood - - PTSD, depression, post-stress adrenal depletion - any of these things may also be affecting you at this time. Don't forget that exercise is a valuable anti-depressant. Some people also need pharmaceutical anti-depressants at this time. Work on establishing a new social support network if yours is thin. Get out. Meet people. Do things. Volunteer to help people less fortunate than yourself.
Things WILL get better - but not if you wallow or play the victim. Put on your Robinson CRusoe thinking cap, check out those resources I gave you, and dream up a better life for yourself. You won;t regret it.
