"It seems like everything I have been doing has caused her stress."
First of all, your actions don't cause her stress. SHE causes herself stress. Stress is something you do to yourself. You have a choice on how to react to something.
"She still thinks I have all the control and doesn't believe the changes I made will stick."
Just tell her that the changes are for you and not for her.
"She said her feelings haven't changed at all. I have bent over backwards to let her see I didn't control everything"
You shouldn't have tried to "force" her to see things your way.
"she just never makes any choices."
That in and of itself is a choice.
"So I ask her what she wants and I don't just accept I don't know."
Why not? It's probably true that she doesn't know. Why do you keep insisting that she does? She's right. That does sound controlling. It makes it sound like you know her more than she knows her.
"All for nothing and now I feel like what I thought was progress was for nothing. I have no clue what to do now."
Stop doing things to get a response that you WANT out of her. That's controlling. Keep up your positive changes for you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
