jim0987 #4 - strengthening my inner cat

[jim0987]

So new discovery.... My job really upsets my wife. I spend a lot of time preparing for death, destruction and disaster. Turns out that this puts my W's anxiety through the roof so anytime I've discussed work its made her really anxious and tense.

Brene Brown describes it as foreboding joy.

In other news I once again told her not to cut accross me when I'm talking to the kids. She responded with her normal smug patronising rudeness. I told her not to be patronising and rude.

In the past I would have made a vicious sarcastic comment

A few minutes later when the kids weren't causing chaos I said this:

M: when you talk over me like that it feels like you are undermining my authority.
W: well you do it all the time
M: its something I trying to make sure I don't do.

Quite friendly chat after that. Though I stayed in the chat too long and was dismissed