Merrick I feel for you. I remember all those feelings like they were yesterday. Your W is always so animated with everything. Thats one thing thats different about our sitches. Mine was more passive even with our D. She is affraid to talk about anything. I think you are handling yourself magnifacently! I think your the new ICEMAN!!! Keep it up, your doing it right by not taking the bait. She is looking for reactions by doing and saying the things she does to set you off. Interesting she said you are trying to physiclly destoying her. Wouldnt she have meant mentally?

I also noticed she was paranoid about you trying to claim her a unfit mother. I find this very interesting because this has come up with my W on occasion also.Is it they feel so much guilt and shame they feel this is a real possibility? Just strikes me oddly they would even suggest this is possible. Merrick with that said be careful moving out. Im sure you are looking into legal ramifications and so on with that choice...be careful. I have given my sitch alot of thought on what I would do different if I had the choice just to see if I could help you in your quest and although I think I did the right thing staying here, its the one question mark in my mind that I have to wonder if things could have been different if I would have done a legal seperation. One thing negative on that is its hard to do a legal sep and still get your kids half the time. I would imagine it would effect the court ruling in the end judgement for placement as well. This is a huge flag and a big red flag for you to watch. Well I am going to run. KOFTGF, your doing a swell job with your detachment as of late Merrick. Hang in there, better days are ahead for you. God Bless, Eddy