Also, another reason I chose not to be his friend is because I don't want him thinking our situation is okay with me. I don't want to give the impression that if we're buddy-buddy and texting all the time, that the ways he hurt me are forgotten about and okay with me and we can pretend our past never happened.

I'll forgive him and I have no score card on the matter going forward, but he did cheat and it wasn't okay. I do want an R with him, not a friendship. He made his choices and the consequence was losing me; as a friend or otherwise.

I don't know. Just thinking out loud.

ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies