-Have you quit drinking completely? -It is best to stop talking with W about property, asset divisions. Let your L do the talking/negotiations. -Is your W still at home? -I would stop talking with OMW completely. It just muddies waters unnecessarily.
Starsky's wife did the same as your W...coming and going at all kinds of hours. If I recall correctly, Starsky just locked the doors at 11:00 am. He did not wait up at all. I think I'll let Starsky chime in here and share his experiences with his formerly WAW.