Was thinking about this, figured I'd get my thoughts down:
Originally Posted By: Mozza
My take is that your BF is not going to go from WAH to BF just because you refuse to be in touch with him.
That's not why I went dark. I went dark because I don't want to be his friend, I want to be his GF again. Watching him have a life without me (and maybe moving on with someone else) is painful to me. Going dark means I don't have to watch and can focus on me and only me.
I really don't think there's anything I can actively do that will "make" him come back. He's got to come to that on his own. The best I can do is work on me for me.
Originally Posted By: Mozza
He'll be interested in you again if you're the positive presence in his life, just as his OW becomes less exciting, more controlling, more annoying, etc.
Maybe, maybe not. I don't know if this is true, in general.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
