Had my first telephone consultation with DB coach Leni last night. She recommended that I concentrate on friendship with H for now with the plan of soon telling him that I am deeply saddened by the hurt, rejection and despair he feels (validating his emotions) and that I love and respect him enough to let him go. Also that I am undergoing deep self-reflection and will make positive changes in myself as I move forward with or without him.
DB coach also said that most affairs end within 6 - 9 months with the exception of long distance affairs. This is because they are not involved in the day to day lives of each other, which allows for the discovery of irritating habits, etc. to happen sooner. My H is in a long distance relationship with OW.
This situation is also pushing me to embark on a spiritual journey. I know that the only way I can possibly survive this is with the help of God. I pray that He helps me to learn from this and to heal and also to understand that He has a plan for me.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
