Thanks for being there for me through this, you have helped. I am in that place now that I am not persuing and feel detached. last 48hrs I have given her all the space she needs...plus some. She responds with...you are angry...I state, no I am giving you space as you ask. I do small things for her still, say goodmorning, bring her coffee and make her lunch but do not text or initate conversation unless it is initated by her. Lots of things to be happy about...she is sleeping in our bed, wears her rings, accepts the bounderies around the possible OM (?EA), and is attending counceling. Biggest issue for me now is that she stated that she wants to make it through the hollidays, and if she doesn't reconnect then begin mediation (yea, that is a big one - don't know about it yet).
Rzorback,
Nice name, how is the team doing this year? Your post is spot on with my W. We have made love 6ish times in 3 months. Last two she stated that she regreted it (but initiated it)however, like you I thought that it was great. I do not know how to approach this, Michelle states that when the opportunity arises to take hold...it may lead to reconnection, however if they are using it as a form of control and security...then I guess we should avoid. The obvious problem is that we cannot get inside thier *&^% heads. Oh well, there are others out there that will give us the respect and love we deserve, if it comes to that.
Best of luck, and stay in touch.
W-43 H-41 M-19 T-21 Kids S-15 D-13 S-11 OM/EA/PA suspected 7/4/14 Talk of Seperation 7/5/14 Slept in same bed, held each other nightly until 2/1/15 W moved out 2/1/15 I am moving on
