jim0987 #4 - strengthening my inner cat

[jim0987]

Actually another option would to be to really take charge of the divorce proceedings. I don't want it but I also don't want to be married to someone who has an A and thinks of me so badly.

There's nothing passive or manipulative its just taking charge if my destiny. It will wind her up and speed things up but its not like she can reject me anymore than she already has.

The fear that stops me is that it feels like I'm not keeping the way back open.