EA then PA with her ex

[Anaru]

Sunday W and I went for a walk - and I backslid and expressed some emotions about out our situation. It was an hour long "discussion" and we just made no progress. Kicking myself for "leaking" emotion and not keeping it together so we could enjoy some time together.
Her position is still she wants the freedom to solve things in her way and I am just supposed to ignore it all and be the kind of person she wants to be with.
The latter part is in line with DR so I get that.

So back to the DR process and detach/STFU and let her go.
Moved upstairs Sun evening to sleep.

Last night (Mon) I spoke on phone w MIL while out for a walk on my own - just such a relief to get some support from her.
Then when home MIL sent a Facebook message to my mobile and my wife saw it. So now she suspects/knows I have discussed with MIL - and W is white hot with anger.
Threats to tell all to my Dad etc etc
Lots of things being said/messaged to me - I am just not responding now. Reminds me of that quote about people showing you how they are
So generally not a great couple of days
Signing papers at the bank today
Am in hospital later in the week for a shoulder operation so can add that to the list of painful things to get through to a better future