I will look into it, Labug! Introversion is something hard to understand by extroverts. LOL


Now, I'm wondering if I should have ignored BF's text. He did end up replying and we laughed at my joke about the cat, but that was it. It was a short conversation. However...I told him a while ago I didn't want to be friends.

I'm not going to mind-read his reason for text me after a couple of days of silence, but if he keeps sending friendly texts and I keep answering, what does it show him?

My point in saying I didn't want to be friends was that he's making a choice that's not me. He's moving on with his life without me, and sleeping with someone else...if not in an R with her.

I don't want to be his friend. I want more. Being in his life and being "his friend" is going to hurt me. That's why I went dark. If he wants me in his life, he needs to decide to put me there. As more than cake.

At the same time....if we're not in contact......

Anyone have advice on this? I'm confused and could use some more brains to help me puzzle it out.

ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies