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KAW, I don't disagree with anything you said, especially on the kids, but the dynamics are somewhat more complicated for me. My W has gone through the annulment phase of thinking in that she says 1) I have done nothing wrong and that we are mismatched; and 2) the things we enjoyed about each other when we got married were not really love, but a manifestation of her own insecurites through her sheltered upbringing, i.e., she made a mistake in getting married to the wrong person and no longer wants to carry this forward.

Yes, I was told that I was just a nice guy that help her out of a bad marriage prior and that she really never had any loving feelings for me. I guess, she felt nearly twenty years of M was enough of a payback for that! ... but the thing is I remember those years past where she also said that being with me was what made her happy. Some extreme varying shades of the truth! ... and why you should hold onto what Michelle states about only believing half of what they say. The hurt and pain the express is real enough, but it also distorts their recount of the way things were and because they can believe they have reached a point of no return, they want to believe there really wasn't anything there to return to in order to make letting go easier for them.

My W refered to that time as getting lost and not being able to see her way. She referred to me as being her lighthouse that help her find her way back again...

I'll leave you with that thought for the weekend... make sure you do something you enjoy this weekend...

'til later,
KAW