It's been almost 3 weeks since H sent the e-mail detailing his ideas on how we would divide up our 'assets.' He finally sent it again today, and this time it did not end up in the Junk folder. There were a few changes, but most of it is the same. Basically everything is 50-50, but of course he makes no mention of spousal support and states that he would keep his pension (of which I'm entitled to half, after 21 years of marriage). Months ago, he suggested we hire a mediator to work this out. He never did that. This e-mail, however, indicates to me that we will need one.
I will likely take it to my attorney (or more likely, financial advisor) to get some preliminary advice, before even heading into any mediation. Right now, he appears to think (mind-reading, yes) that I'll pretty much roll over and play dead, and let him keep all of 'his' big accounts.
So, to respond to the e-mail, how about something like this:
H, there is alot to consider, and it will take some time to sort through it all. When you get a chance, please drop off our tax records for the last 3 years so we (I?) can get started. (He took them from our files a while ago without telling me.)
Any thoughts? I don't want to start sending flaming arrows back and forth and let things get nasty...
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15
