Right now, your situation is harder than most because both of you stepped out on the M. That's why I asked for clarification if it was you or your W who did it first. In your first post here, you said you were the first, then changed it to your W. It's not uncommon for the LBS to change their stories to make them seem like the victim.
Now, I said your situation is "harder" but NOT impossible. Don't make her relationship with the OM the sole source of your attention. I say relationship rather than an A because you were okay with carrying on with another woman who wasn't your W. That's the first thing you need to acknowledge.
Next, realize that she was hurt as well by you (as per your first post) and your emotional attachment to the OW.
So now that brings you back to Square One. What issues were there in your M? Write them all down. What were you like when you two first M'd? What are some things that you KNOW that others may not about her?
Detail these out and be objective. If you were an @$$ to her, then say so and explain how. Only then can we create solutions for you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
