've realized something I do that I imagine drives him nuts. I stress out about things. Especially things I can't control. And I want his reassurance that things will be okay. For example - when the car broke down I didn't find out until after we had put the boys to bed and then he tells me. I am up stressing all night about it.. Can we fix it? How much is it going to cost? How will I get to work? Blah blah. So I'm really trying to make a conscious effort to step back and let things be. We have MC again this week. This will only be our 4th time going since September. The C would like to see us more often but it's pretty far away. However I'm now done with my second job so we should have more time.
I think this really needs to be addressed in counseling. Make sure he get it. My H always waited till I had my hand on the doorknob ready to leave for work.....then he started telling me everything that was due, and anything else that could have been said the previously. What stressed me was that it usually caused me to push the clock getting to work on time. I started asking him if there was anything I needed to know, in plenty of time.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
