She has an unrealistic expectation that I should know exactly what she wants/needs and how to do it (her words).
I don't know if she reads romance novels, but I use to read a lot. One common theme I saw in them was how the hero always seem to know exactly what the woman was thinking and exactly what she desired. IDK, maybe it is a misconception that some girls get at some point, but reading these fiction stories that all give that same message, sure doesn't help straighten things out. It does cause problems for the men....and for the women, as well.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!