Slow and easy. LRT I think helps. It's gonna take months before she's really ready.
No moving in for quite some time. Let her learn to value you.
By the way you don't have to own her version of the story: you were a taker, and she was a giver. Just listen.
Gogofo -- you are a good man fighting for your marriage. Don't forget that YOU are worth fighting for, too. There's a long line of lovely women waiting for your wife to screw this up. Remember that. You have options ;-)
