Yes I agree it needs to be a new marriage and I believe H was all for that. But now he is getting comfortable. Not as much effort as the beginning. I mean quite normal of all relationships to pursue the way he did in the beginning. I have tried bringing it up and he says he is just stressed with work and all we have going on.
I get it and I try to validate it but honestly I don't want excuses.. We had different stressors the last few months and it didn't stop him from being more affectionate. When he is distant it makes me wonder what else is going on.
I'm ready for a getaway again. We just had his parents in town for the last 2 weeks. Both of my work commuter cars have broken down and we are still in the middle of a bathroom and kitchen remodel. All while dealing with an active lawsuit. So I get it.. Were busy. I just don't want to get in trouble again.
I've realized something I do that I imagine drives him nuts. I stress out about things. Especially things I can't control. And I want his reassurance that things will be okay. For example - when the car broke down I didn't find out until after we had put the boys to bed and then he tells me. I am up stressing all night about it.. Can we fix it? How much is it going to cost? How will I get to work? Blah blah. So I'm really trying to make a conscious effort to step back and let things be. We have MC again this week. This will only be our 4th time going since September. The C would like to see us more often but it's pretty far away. However I'm now done with my second job so we should have more time.
We are taking the boys to the mountains for Thanksgiving. I had requested the time off during our S and planned on taking the boys alone so now H wants to go with us. He also booked a cabin for our annual Christmas-New Years vacation in the mountains up north. It was a nice change that he took the initiative and booked the cabin so I don't have to worry about it
