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My dads style is to belittke them abd utterly destroy the other persons confidence. my older brothers is violence.


Oh my! Well, both of those are clearly not doable, and I respect you for choosing not to follow in those tracks.

Do you know someone now or in your past that set a good example? Maybe when you were in school?

It doesn't have to be a real person to have an idea of how he would handle things. Ask Mr. Bond, James Bond.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!