jim0987 #4 - strengthening my inner cat

[25yearsmlc]

Do you have a strong male role model that you look to, as far as picturing how he would address some issues?

This ^^^ is So important. Most of us learned what NOT to do in some situations, but then we revert right back there under times of stress.

We need to replace the negative reactions and approaches, with positive ones.

So finding a role model for that is crucial and oh so helpful. Then, when the $h1t hits the fan (& life will continue to throw us curve balls)

you really will be ready. IF your spouse sees an "old" behavior, it's frightening and confirms their worst fears; e.g., that you have not changed.

And a WAS will not return to a marriage they left..........unless


they believe the marriage can be better/different than before.

How are you Showing that? (Not in words but actions)?

See, the positive role model (or a ton of reading about healthy behaviors in stressful times) or newly learned how TO DO, behaviors is vital.

Make sense?