I've got a call into the lawyer to see if there's anything good or bad legally about confronting her.
What "good" are you aiming for? You are in a no fault state so you cannot threaten her...(and no, that would not help.)
We are in a zero-fault state, but I'm worried this may impact custody one way or the other. Basically, she has been checking out of the kid's lives also.
If she's really "Checked out"of the kids lives, then document who has the kids when, etc. But don't threaten a custody battle based on OM b/c courts see thru that s a controlling punitive measure that MANY spouses try (yes I'm a L but no, this is NOT "legal advice"). Except to say, discuss it with a L b/c chances are that OM is not at all relevant to custody issues, much to the dismay of many many LBSer's. (Unless they ML in front of the kids or do drugs, but the R itself is not an issue in most states so the "adultery charge", becomes meaningless.)
IF your 180s and changes are real, and IF you are or become a very attentive dad, it'll be hard for her not to reconsider her choice, and besides, most A's run their course in a matter of months. The PLAN: Be the better choice. Become a man only a fool would leave.
The phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater" is a lie we tell ourselves when we choose not to forgive.
IF you and your w try to reconcile remember that you must get past this A.
IS that something you believe you could do or at least try? Be honest with yourself b/c if you can't, then you are putting yourselves thru more pain than you already have. Tell me more about your GAL and the "new you", please.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
