I was reading over your first thread last night, and was really amazed how much our husbands acted when this all began. I had been married for 18 years together a total of 21.
I agree with Matt, take advantage of the generous stage, because greedy monster is sure to follow. Mine did that right at Christmas time and refused to pay the support we agreed upon before it became completely legal. I called my attorney on that one, and ex husband straightened up right away. Of course he was more upset that I made him look bad in front of his attorney. Really??
Be sure you're being fair to yourself and think about how life will financially be down the road, and address that through this negotiation accordingly. I haven't read over all your situation, and I know your state may be different, but if you can make sure you get the entire tax return each year, especially if he's opting to be the part time father. My ex tried to get me to share it with him, but I refused to do that, because the expense to raise my girls is getting higher and higher each year.
