The two of you are in a power struggle, just like with two kids.
You can't bait her like that, and not expect her to come how with the claws. She has wore the pants all these years. You have basically taken the role of the traditional wife and mother. You will have a hard hill to climb.
Being masculine is not about who can yell the loudest. But I'm sure you know that.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
