Thanks Theoden, a lot to digest in your post. I have started to read Hold Onto Your N.U.T.s. and will be trying to figure out some of the things I will not waver on. I do need to figure things out and stop coddling her. Way easier said than done.

Thanks for the input.

M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15