Ok really trying to GAL. I have joined a tennis league, which starts in 1 week. I haven't played tennis in about 25 years so it should be interesting. I signed up to play mixed doubles by using the "Find a Partner" search on the league website. This is waaaayyyy out of my comfort zone but I am really going to start GALing.
H texted on Friday asking if there were any plans this weekend. I texted back a few things that I was planning on doing, including playing tennis. I know GALing is really for me but I want him to see that I am moving forward. Usually when he asks if anything is going on he will say that he's coming over for a visit on Sunday for a few hours. He didn't do that this time and I never heard anything more from him so I figure he spent the weekend with OW. It is taking every ounce of control I have not to send a sarcastic text. I remember 25 mlc said not to mention the OW or OM *EVER* so that is what I'm trying to do.
Cried while shopping in the grocery store this morning. Cried while at Walmart shopping this afternoon. I think the crying was triggered by the Christmas music and Christmas decorations that are already out.
At times I want to tell him that since he has chosen to leave our family, he is not welcome to come over for Thanksgiving or Christmas and that he can start his own new traditions with OW. She has never been married and has no kids. I don't know if she has other family around or not. H has previously told D23 that he would still spend holidays with us. I would really appreciate some advice or input about the holidays from the vets or anyone else. Don't know what to do.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
