Okay, thanks for the information. Could you answer these other questions, please?
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Is it common for her to ask you to get her something she likes?
While you are waiting on the books, you can find the first chapters on the board. Also, be doing a lot of soul searching and list the specific things you need to change to become a better man. Name what you know bothered her. You have already named some things you are improving (which are great, btw) but what about the interaction between your W and you? What would you need to improve there?
Do you know what she needs to feel emotionally connected with you? Do you know her Love Language?
What kind of personality do your W and children see in you? How does your personality and hers differ from each other?
Do you see ways you could polish some manners and charm?
What about her level of attraction to you? Can you tell?
You have three children with her. Why haven't you M her?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thanks Sandi, I'm not very good with writing and expressing my situation but I will try my best She phoned me yesterday to ask if I was going to call at her home after work to see the kids and I don't want to read to much into it but her tone on the phone was much softer much like when we were a couple They was also a day last week she called at my place and she said her feet were cold and she took off her shoes to warm them next to the fire and for some reason I got hold of her feet to rub them to warm them and that made her smile Friday could be interesting as we are both invited to a mutual friends birthday party I have up until now stayed away from socialising at the same place as I could not stand the thought of seeing her with another man
I think the best change that I made was to get in to shape, the compliments I'm getting now 6 months later are a great ego booster, breakups really do make bodybuilders
W has asked me if I would still go for Christmas dinner at her parents house this year so I would be with the kids and I'm just not sure if I should accept
W txt me at work today asked if I would take her shopping tomorrow as she doesn't drive, I'm starting to think all the progress I have made are not baby steps just her been nice so she can carry on cake eating. Every weekend she goes out drinking with a single friend and at least one night she doesn't go home as the eldest D16 told me, I'm sure she has OM but no proof, she even made a comment about buying condoms trying to get a reaction out of me but I just ignored it. Anyway I sent this reply back to her which I thought quite fun and did not want to be a doormat (yes I can give you a lift but I charge 3 hard spanks across your ass with a spachelor lol) And she replied back (Lol I think I can manage that)
I may also add last Friday at the party we both went to but we're not sat together, I seen a guy who I know just a little talking to her, and her body language was very forth coming leaning in to him and he tried to kiss her but she pushed him away, he got up and seemed to go off in a mood leaving the venue, this was also witnessed by D16 as we we're both watching, there was rumours a few months ago she had been seeing this guy but she denied it but now I think something must be going on there. After the party she invited me and a couple of other friends back to hers to carry on drinking into the early morning, there was no sign of the OM that night
