Hi There, I have been reading many posts and forums since end of Aug/14 and have been learning more in these few months then I learned all my life. My husband gave me the D request on 7/26/14 - We have been married for 18 years on 12/14/14. We have three boys, 20, 16 and 14. I heard those words that are so famous on the boards - I love you a lot, but not the same way I use to love you. Well I have been in Limbo since then and we have been best friends, best lovers and very close since then. I decided to write so I can get some help of how to handle my situation in a way that will reinforce my will, my spirit and with or without my husband I will continue my life. I don't know if he has any affair at this point, he doesn't behave like he has but I am not sure, lots happen during this time and he moved out of the house on 10/31/14. H has been out of the house for a week but I got text messages almost every day, he called me friday morning and asked if we could meet to talk, I asked what he wanted to talk and he said about us, our lives. I was shaking all day long. I though he would just list his decisions and tell me he was filling for D now, but nothing, basically he just told me he checked the price of our house and that's it. We talked about what is going on in our jobs, we talked about my niece's birthday party, kids, more of his work, during the time we were talking I answer a text message and told him I need to get going. We talked a little more and towards end I mention that it was weird that for a long time we did not do this, meet just the two of us, drink some wine and talk and he said that it was strange I mention this because he was just thinking about this while he was waiting for me. He thank me a few times for spending some time with him to talk. He walked to my car and gave me a big, long hug and a kiss. I do not know what to think, maybe it is my DBing working, maybe he is still not believing in my changes, or maybe he is more lost then I thought. I notice he was somewhat sad, not beaten up but kind a poor dog eyes. H was very polite and I still feel that he loves me, not D talking, no decisions,just talk. Crazy hum?
