I call D at 7:45, a little later than our usual call time. H answers and says D isn't ready to talk yet that they'll call in a few minutes. I knew this meant they were still out with her friends from the movie hey saw at 3:00 pm.
She calls and we're talking. It's now 8 pm and she hasn't eaten dinner.
She says they are at the house because H needs to charge his car over night here so we can drive to the karate tournament tomorrow morning at 5:30 am.
She comes to the door, I get a big hug and says she wants to stay with me tonight. She asks H and asks if he is offended. He says no and if it so with me it's fine with him.
I start to make her a quick dinner and then start to run a bath while H starts in on why we have to be at the tournament so early. I explain that the black belt people are sparring at 8 am and it takes a long time to get there. He asks why we have to see the black belt people and I can feel myself getting annoyed. It's clear he doesn't want to go which is FINE but he won't say it. He just wants it to go down his way which is that we just go for D's events and leave. Well she would like to see the black belters and for a 2.5 hour drive I don't want to just be there for an hour for her events.
My instinct is to give him that out, tell him he can skip it or just show up for her events and I'll drive her down alone. It's not that big of a deal. I don't want to deal with his moodiness about the whole thing.
Then he starts in on texting a babysitter for my on Monday. I said, "I thought you said you'd watch her" to which he replied, "but it's not my day, it's your day."
Oh I see.
What an absolute arse.
I went upstairs to give D a bath so she would smell and look clean for her tournament that she has been looking forward to for over a month and H just walked out.
Whatever.
No dinner. No bath. No reasonable bedtime before a big day.
Wth??
But he can't make himself available on Monday because it's "my day"? I'm the only member of this family currently employed.
I am absolutely sure I didn't handle all this the best way I could have but in the moment given all the last minute stuff (d sleeping here tonight, last minute dinner, last minute bath, etc) I think I did ok. Just ok.
I'm not looking forward to 2+ hours in the car with him tomorrow.
