@Sandi: Good to know that I may be on the right track. Now I have to make sure I am quick enough on my feet to respond properly and to be consistent in my behavior.
And you're on the money about the warning not to 'fix her'. Not that I want to really fix her, but more that I want to fix us. But I think I'm finally coming around to the idea that I can't fix us, I can only fix me. Only we can fix us, and we're not nearly there yet. No matter how badly I want us to be.
Thank you, Sandi. None of this may work at all, but this the most hopeful I've felt in a while.
