I really believe you should not even bring up an apology right now, b/c it would be linked with what was done/said......and would defeat your intentions.
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Finding time to enjoy being together may be difficult now that she filed. But I know every interaction is an opportunity. She said she enjoys our time together but working on us hurts.
Look at it this way, if you get D then you are going to use these last times together as making good memories. You see, that has much more effectiveness with a woman than you trying to get her to change her mind, or have another talk with her. If she can't remember any good times, then leave her with sweet memories now,
Yes, it hurts when the past comes up. It is painful dealing with all of this in piecing. That is why you will need to get a professional to help you both, if she ever decides to try again. But do not mention it now!
You are blessed that she even wants to be around you. Most women in her shoes would be ticked at you pushing all the time, and most who file wouldn't still enjoy spending time with the LBH.
Men often push so hard to stop the D b/c they see it as the end, forever. Maybe it would help you if you stopped looking at it that way. (Again, don't tell her what I am telling you.). You may be able to move on, or you may be able to find your way back to each other. But for gosh sakes stop pushing her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
