Sandi2, brought up a point I have been chewing on since I read it. It was about my wife's resistance to letting go of her resentment. Justified or not, she feels that I am the cause of many of her problems and there is no way we can move forward until she lets go of at least some of that.
I am following Sandi's rules until the books show up in my mailbox (they can't get here soon enough, but I just checked the tracking and it seems they're being shipped overseas so may take longer than expected...thanks Amazon). I'm a service giver and affectionate type, so these rules go against my personality grain quite a bit; but nothing else I have though to try has worked so I will treat these as the better idea I never thought of myself.
That being said, is there anything else I can possibly do to foster a lowering of the wall of anger I keep coming up against? And if not, how does one react to it to get a more positive result at the end of the day? How do I avoid speaking with her first when I want to know what's going on with my son?
