Continuing DBing after the affair

[PeterV2]

My W too has gain a bit of weight however I still find her stunning naked. It's not really an issue with me. However she is very self-conscious about it. I think women's self-images are much more fragile and linked closely to self-esteem and self-love issues. By me looking at skinny young women it would make her feel demeaned by comparison - not that I would ever be comparing her. She's flesh & blood right in front of me and there's a whole lot more to love making than intercourse.

I always wanted to take it slow and pleasure her, as that would stimulate me, but she would get impatient and jump me. Not that I didn't mind, but when she complains now that I always went straight for sex it feels like a bit of a disconnect from the past reality - more rewriting of history, which is script.

Yes, as you said, my viewing of porn did make her feel less desirable, even though I desired her no less because of it, but there's no point trying to convince her otherwise. That just dismisses her feelings. I need to validate her feelings: my viewing of porn must have made you feel undesirable and that must have hurt.