Continuing DBing after the affair

[Maybell]

I don't know what to tell you about what to do while you're not on that footing with one another. I will say, I would have had quite a lot more sex with my H if I'd felt closer and more desired by him. I'm not saying you're guilty of failing in that area -- though her complaints about the porn use suggest that impacted her sense of being desirable. But I'll tell you, the only time I felt like my H might actually desire my body was when he complained that I wouldn't let him see me naked. (I'd gained a lot of weight after my third child and felt really ugly. Didn't want him to notice.) it never occurred to me that he actually found me attractive when I felt so unattractive.

Take that for what it's worth.