She is getting a lot of help, 25. She has her own IC that she has been meeting with weekly to cover this topic, how it relates/related to our relationship. On top of the counseling that we attend together. My IC, her IC and our MC are all part of the same practice (my IC owns it) and so they have been taking a collaborative approach with us -- we have ok'd them sharing our sessions among themselves. As far as counseling goes, it really is the best possible scenario for us.
As far as the validity of her claim(s), and I am not saying this as the "white knight" -I believe they are valid. Not solely because she say so, but because over the years I had been receiving tiny little pieces of the puzzle all along and didn't know it - and sure as hell didn't know how to put them together. However, and most damning, there are now medical symptoms that she is being treated for (after years of living with them) that validate her memories.
It is a lot to take on. But what am I to do? I am not going to leave her because of it. I am there to support and try to take care of myself and our son. This is not easy - but I sincerely feel that I am doing the right thing.
Moreover - things HAVE gotten better...a lot better....since we began this reconciliation attempt. Honestly, 25, I wouldn't con you on that. Communication has done a 180 (OK, it's like a 153 some days but it is significant progress) -- and we are more aware of ourselves, each other, and how we treat one another.
She's actually in Palm Springs for the weekend visiting a friend. So it's me and the boy -- just like old times, hellish as they may have been. Before she left, she asked "Are you guys gonna be OK" -- and I basically smiled and said that we have been a duo for a long time and the we would be just fine. Anyhooooo.......have to take the boy to see Big Hero 6 this morning. Not gonna lie - I kinda wanna see it too.
