Continuing DBing after the affair

[PeterV2]

Wow! I love it!!!
This is the kind of back and forth discussion the I find invaluable. Starky & GoatGirl, you have great points of view. Equally valid and gender appropriate. I know that women general find porn offensive and men generally say what's the big deal. It is however a very relevant topic and I think the discussion here is very productive.

First of all there are all different flavours of porn. Some is photos of naked women posing for the photographer. I'm sure some are forced into it which I wouldn't approve of, but other women do it because it's easy money and they don't mind the exhibitionism.

Then there's the live sex videos which again, I'm sure some are produced from submission of unwilling women, but there are some produced with willing women who like the money.

I do not like the subjugation of a woman's right to self determination in order for others to profit from the resulting productions, however when the women are freely participating for commercial benefit, then I see nothing wrong with the resulting productions.

The problem is how to distinguish the two. Usually you can tell, although I'm sure some subjugated women act well enough to fool the viewer into thinking it's consensual.

The abusive porn is loathsome in my opinion. The consensual porn is titillating.

However, that being said, the fact that my W disapproved of me viewing any type of porn draws me to the conclusion that I should divest of any incursions into that realm. Until I do, my W will have a problem with it.

I can't quite wrap my head around the fact that if we're viewing it together it's ok but if I'm viewing it without her it's not. Can someone of the opposite sex help me out with that one?