I agree T2, Of all the weeks to pick to push for a meeting that has no "real" urgency, this is about the worst. Before I got that call I was trying figure out a way to get all of what I need to do done AND still try and find time to send out more resumes and make sure I have enough to pay for the course and enough to pay for gas getting my D14 to and from school not to mention paying for food while she is here.
I have a feeling this is about the fact that my lawyer asked me to put together a list of the assets and liabilities that my W and myself brought into the M. I brought in about $50,000 in assets and no liabilities while my W had over $35,000 in student loan debt and very little in assets (about $1,000). According to my lawyer, I have a right to recoup this money now that my W wants to end the M. We (mostly I since W didn't work most of the M) paid all but $1600 of that debt over the years and the $50,000 was in a retirement I cashed in just weeks before my W bombed me. I cashed it in after she told me she had zero thoughts of ever leaving the M, we were going to grow old together, etc. 12 weeks later was B-day. (When I asked her about why she would say this she said she had "changed her mind" in that amount of time and that she "can't help" that she no longer felt that way. Typical MLC as later she would say she had felt like she didn't love me for "years". Which was it? Only she can make sense of those statements!).
Now I also can't be sure about the office either. I still have an opportunity to make some money before I leave this job and this week is the BEST time as now that we put our last well on line and it's making money for my clients, it's the perfect time to sell more! These times are very few in my line of work and I need to be thinking about that, not more D bulls#it! At the same time I need to make time to meet the staff at the place I think I will be offered a job. It's like I'm running out of time and the world is conspiring to just make everything harder! It would have been enough to hear an hour before closing time that we may not have an office on Monday morning and it's best to take my personal stuff home for now. That was stressful enough! Add all the rest (and the fact that I can't let the place I work now know I'm thinking of leaving so I can have a chance to make some money and they don't just push me out before I have a chance to sell my clients) and I'm feeling very stressed!
I need to tell my lawyer that next week is just not going to work. I just can't do all I need to do and have that meeting at the same time. I would need to prepare for the meeting, decide what I'm willing to give up and what I won't, getting the paperwork together to prove out the numbers, not to mention the stress it will cause me facing down my W and her lawyer! I'm already stressing that I will be needing to drive 120 extra miles every day when I have my D14 with me to get her to school and back and add to that the 30 miles each way to and from work and that's a heck of a gas bill and wear on my car, not to mention the extra time before I can get her from school. So much to handle I really don't need more right now.
I will make a list of what is the most important things that NEED to be done and go down in order. I will say this, what my W wants isn't my top priority for sure. She wants to get the D over with fine. But I will not let that get in the way of what I MUST do if I want my life to work and this new job has to be my my first priority (other than my D14 of course).
